Before Blue (Jay-Z and Beyonce)

Shawn Corey Carter, a US rapper better known by his stage name, Jay-Z, and his wife, Beyonce, a singer, songwriter and actress, gave birth to baby Blue Ivy, a little girl, earlier this month.

While the news continues to circulate over what hospital they went to, the method of childbirth and delivery experienced, and any photos that can leak from them leaving the hospital and of course of baby Blue, her father, Jay-Z, just shared another personal family experience with the world:

Before baby Blue, Jay-Z and Beyonce experienced a miscarriage.

In his newest song, “Glory”, Jay-Z shares some important insight into the experiences of childbirth and of miscarriage.  Perhaps one of the most important, and most obvious to bereaved parents, is that a pregnancy loss, and a subsequent pregnancy and birth, have aspects that are interrelated and very much connected.

Jay-Z shows through the lyrics of “Glory” that their miscarriage experience was not forgotten simply because Beyonce experienced a full-term pregnancy or a live childbirth, and that no amount of media attention, controversy, or public eye on the birth of Blue Ivy could make them forget the anguish and heartbreak over the miscarriage prior to her birth.

The song “Glory” also gives some insight into what this couple may have been struggling with during the course of this pregnancy: the quiet fear of losing another child.  This fear is not uncommon, and many parents experience some level of anxiety or concern during various aspects of subsequent pregnancies after loss, particularly the first subsequent pregnancy, and particularly during the first trimester.

Additionally, Jay-Z incorporated the actual sounds of Blue Ivy, her whimpering and crying, into “Glory”.  Altogether, this song serves as a blend of identifying both his and Beyonce’s feelings regarding their miscarriage experience, and their joy and sense of victory at the birth of their daughter.

While “hip-hop” or “rap” music may typically protray tough, stoic men with rigid messages, Jay-Z uses this medium to creatively express the deep, complex emotions of grief, fear, and finally, thrill and awe.

I am thankful for one more opportunity that a celebrity has used their experience to help educate the world of important aspects of pregnancy loss.

Jay-Z and Beyonce, I am very sorry for the struggles you’ve endured during and after your miscarriage.  I am thankful that you experienced the joyful birth of your daughter, Blue Ivy, and I thank you for sharing these experiences with the world.  It is my hope that you feel shielded from any controvery or criticism regarding your choice to share, but that you feel totally convinced that it was the right thing to do, both for your own healing, but also to help provide comfort to other loss families who possibly wouldn’t have felt as comforted without your sharing through your song, “Glory.”

Some of the lyrics to “Glory”:

Last time the miscarriage was so tragic

We was afraid you disappeared

But nah, baby you magic (voilà)

So there you have it, [profanity edited out] happens

Make sure the plane you on is bigger than your carry-on baggage

Everybody goes through stuff

Life is a gift love, open it up”

Click here to listen to “Glory“, featuring B-I-C (Blue Ivy Carter)

 

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Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worse kind of suffering.

— Paulo Coelho

Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.

— Thich Nhat Hanh

People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.

— Thich Nhat Hanh

Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today.

— Thich Nhat Hanh

You must submit to supreme suffering in order to discover the completion of joy.

— John Calvin
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