When a mother experiences a pregnancy loss, she needs time and care to assimilate the experience into her life. Every aspect of her life is changed. Pregnancies impact her: hearing that other people are pregnant, but also her own subsequent pregnancies impact her as well.
When a mother experiences a pregnancy loss, and then she becomes pregnant again, she doesn’t just “get to leave” the pregnancy loss demographic. She will forever be a loss mom.
When a mother experiences a pregnancy loss, and then she becomes pregnant again, she enters into this new pregnancy in a different way than she has ever entered into a pregnancy before.
She is scared in a way she wasn’t before.
She is excited in a way she wasn’t before.
She is aware of loss mothers’ feelings toward her pregnancy in a way she wasn’t before.
She cherishes her pregnancy in a way she hasn’t before.
She is eager for the full term, live, happy delivery of her baby in a way she hadn’t been before.
When a mother experiences a pregnancy loss, and learns that another mother who has also endured a loss has become pregnant again, she needs to remember that this pregnancy does not take the mother out of grief. It does not remove her from the reality of her loss.
We loss mothers need to encourage one another, be supportive of one another, and be respectful of one another.
If you are a loss mother, and are pregnant with a subsequent pregnancy, please know that your feelings and experiences through this pregnancy are valuable. Share with us here, what you are going through and what you have gone through. Share your birth story of your subsequent “rainbow” baby here. We’d love to add it to the “Getting Pregnant Again” section, to provide inspiration to others and to remind all of us that mothers of subsequent pregnancies are in fact still loss moms too.
For more information on mothers of subsequent “rainbow” pregnancies, please visit our article on “Getting Pregnant Again“.
