Rearing isn’t Easy

Maybe you are a parent who has endured loss.  Maybe that loss is the death of a baby, or it’s a struggle to conceive.

In darkness, you might have thought:

“I’d be a much better parent than her…”

And somehow, this quiet boastfulness only festered your grief.

Jealousy immediately followed.

Maybe even, a bit of entitlement.  Anger. 

Somehow and somewhere in your journey, though, you are now a parent to a living child.

And, it’s not as easy as you thought.

You might be sleep deprived.

You might be fearful that your child isn’t bonding very well with you.

You might be dreading that your baby isn’t behaving like you thought, or that you aren’t responding with the endless amounts of affection, attention and adoration you imagined having.

Maybe you’ve lost your patience.

Maybe guilt followed.

Maybe shame began to sink in, and sink your spirits.

Parenting – whether through mourning, or through rearing, flat is not easy.

And, you are not alone.

You are invited to share your rearing challenges and joys in our Holding Umbrellas collection.  Just use our sharing tab to write your story.

 

 

 

Related: the SBD growing collection of “subsequent” pregnancy, birth and rearing resources and our Still Parenting journal project.

{photo source}

 

 

 

Rate this post
0 0 votes
Article Rating
BIRTH & BEREAVEMENT QUOTES
«    10 of 16    »

The measure of a life, after all, is not its duration, but its donation.

— Corrie Ten Boom

No one will ever know the strength of my love for you. After all, you’re the only one who knows what my heart sounds like from the inside.

— anonymous

Whether your pregnancy was meticulously planned, medically coaxed, or happened by surprise, one thing is certain – your life will never be the same.

— Catherine Jones

Let us make pregnancy an occasion when we appreciate our female bodies.

— Merete Leonhardt-Lupa

When you moved, I felt squeezed with a wild infatuation and protectiveness. We are one. Nothing, not even death, can change that.

— Suzanne Finnamore, The Zygote Chronicles
«    10 of 16    »


See Our Babies Birth Support Find an SBD Doula Include Your Beloved Babies' Names
BECOME A DOULA!

Enroll now in the Birth & Bereavement Doula® program!


We onboard enrolled students into the program by email invitation.

After tuition, you can email heidi.faith@stillbirthday.com directly to expedite this step.  Alternatively, if you prefer fb communications, you can join us in Admissions.

HOW OUR HEARTS RELEASE BEGAN
TRENDING
0
Would love your thoughts, please comment.x
()
x