Rearing isn’t Easy

Maybe you are a parent who has endured loss.  Maybe that loss is the death of a baby, or it’s a struggle to conceive.

In darkness, you might have thought:

“I’d be a much better parent than her…”

And somehow, this quiet boastfulness only festered your grief.

Jealousy immediately followed.

Maybe even, a bit of entitlement.  Anger. 

Somehow and somewhere in your journey, though, you are now a parent to a living child.

And, it’s not as easy as you thought.

You might be sleep deprived.

You might be fearful that your child isn’t bonding very well with you.

You might be dreading that your baby isn’t behaving like you thought, or that you aren’t responding with the endless amounts of affection, attention and adoration you imagined having.

Maybe you’ve lost your patience.

Maybe guilt followed.

Maybe shame began to sink in, and sink your spirits.

Parenting – whether through mourning, or through rearing, flat is not easy.

And, you are not alone.

You are invited to share your rearing challenges and joys in our Holding Umbrellas collection.  Just use our sharing tab to write your story.

 

 

 

Related: the SBD growing collection of “subsequent” pregnancy, birth and rearing resources and our Still Parenting journal project.

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BIRTH & BEREAVEMENT QUOTES
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Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worse kind of suffering.

— Paulo Coelho

Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.

— Thich Nhat Hanh

People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.

— Thich Nhat Hanh

Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today.

— Thich Nhat Hanh

You must submit to supreme suffering in order to discover the completion of joy.

— John Calvin
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