Recurrent Miscarriage or Stillbirth

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and Fertility Information

This article contains general information regarding recurrent miscarriage, stillbirth, and fertility information.  If you are miscarrying right now, please be taken back to the beginning.  Or you can be taken to our threatened miscarriage article if are searching for information in a threatened or possible miscarriage, along with anecdotal information in preventing a possible miscarriage.

Enduring multiple losses can pose unique emotional challenges, whether you have surviving children or not, and whether you have surviving children or not, emotional support is extremely important.  Having a surviving child or children can make you feel as though your feelings over your losses are perhaps less valuable, and well-meaning friends can inflict unintentional harm as they pry and ask questions about your continued family planning, not knowing you may be enduring such heartbreak.  If you do not have surviving children, the journey from grief to healing can seem excruciatingly lonely, hopeless, and as though noone could understand your many feelings, including how to handle family pressures to carry on the family name or legacy, or planning your retirement years without children or grandchildren involved.

Whether a few weeks, or a few years, have passed since your first pregnancy loss, any subsequent losses are usually more emotionally devastating on both the mother and the father, and the intensity of the grief can oftentimes seem magnified.

Following subsequent losses, it can seem as though you may be trying to numb or dull the emotions out.

You may have at one time processed your feelings and felt confident that if you experience another loss, you may be more ready, more in control.  Oftentimes, it is one parent who feels this confidence, while the other parent may have doubts or fears about trying again.  You may feel guilty or embarassed for thinking you could try again, or for thinking that you could handle another loss easier.  You may feel so angry that you decide to make a definitive decision regarding birth control, or you may feel so panicked that you quickly try again.  You may wonder why it is so unfair that you have recurrent losses, and may wonder if you’ll ever complete a full pregnancy with a happy, healthy baby.  You may feel that after subsequent losses, it is best to be quiet about it, not tell anyone, and try to move on silently.

These feelings are all very common, and you really can work through them positively.

And, you are not alone.  Please consider sharing your story with us, so that another mother experiencing recurrent pregnancy loss can learn from you.

There are all kinds of support resources here at stillbirthday, from immediate support through the process of loss, to later, long term support resources.

Here are links to several different ideas and sources of information (outside links) that you might find useful.  Please discard any resource that does not find comfort in your heart.  This is not a place of imposing anyone’s position onto you in your journey, or even of endorsing any resource, but simply of presenting different opportunities for you.  It is my deepeset desire that you can find a way, a person, or a place, that you feel comfortable talking about your feelings and getting the support that you need.

I do have one gentle caution.  Non-medical or non-invasive fertility support doesn’t necessarily mean that it supports in the way that you actually need it to.  Please, consult with your trusted medical provider about the options you’re interested in pursuing.

Multiple pregnancy loss is devastating, and emotional healing is extremely important.  Please, as you grieve, and find your way to healing, be gentle with yourself.

Stillbirthday Additional Links:

Perspectives from Other Mothers:

Professional Fertility Support / Referrals

Prayers for Conception:

Identifying Primary Infertility:

Identifying Secondary Infertility:

Important Aspects and Links to Fertility Challenges:

Non-Medical Fertility Support:

Anecdotal Support:

  • Consult your trusted provider to learn more about:
  • ClaryCalm (containing Vitex)
  • Vitex
  • diindolylmethane (DIM)
  • Maca Root
  • Associated herbs, for such things as vaginal steaming – Goldenseal, Red Raspberry leaf, Ginger Root, Sasparilla, False Unicorn, Hawthorn, Borage Seed Oil, Oat Straw, Red Clover, Chaste Tree Berry, Rosemary.

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dōTERRA Clary Calm is a proprietary blend of Certified Pure Therapeutic Grade essential oils that have been traditionally used to balance hormones and manage symptoms of PMS and the transitional phases of menopause.* Clary Calm is a topical blend of clary sage, lavender, bergamot, Roman chamomile, cedarwood, ylang ylang, geranium, fennel, carrot seed, palmarosa and vitex that provides a temporary respite from cramps, nausea, hot flashes, and the emotional swings which are sometimes associated with regular hormone cycles in women.

 

Non-Medical Fertility and Healthy Links:

Nutritional Information Pertaining to Fertility:

Possible ways to increase progesterone:

  • decrease eating foods or herbs containing estrogen.
  • increase vitamin B6, vitamin C and zinc.
  • increase magnesium.
  • increase chasteberry (vitex).
  • Mexican Yam (wild yam) cream.

N0n-Traditional Family Support Resources:

Medically Assisted Conception:

Foster/Adoption:

Finding Peace with Childlessness:

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