Sharing Rights and Responsibilities

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General (stories, comments, photos, poems, etc.)

Stories and photos shared through stillbirthday are under the same copyright protection as everything else available throughout this site.  You may not copy stories or use photos in any way without the written consent of both the site creator and the original contributor of the photo or story.  They are the rightful owners of their submissions.

Stories are shared from the broken hearts of loved ones of deceased babies.  Speaking through grief is a common theme.  Within each person’s unique grief, their story might contain sentiments of blame, guilt, shame, anger, despair, and hope.  These very real feelings are not edited out.

Editing is minimal and consists of occasionally changing an incorrect term to a correct one (for example, if the story says “DNC” I will change it to “D&C”), deleting the names of those people in the story who are not the author to protect their privacy (names of husbands are deleted and replaced with “my husband”), and some grammatical content may be adjusted.  The message of the story remains intact.  Additionally, names of providers or hospitals are deleted whenever possible.  The contributor or the site creator chooses a title for the piece.  If you have a title picked out, please include it when submitting your piece.

Links directing readers to your blog or website are also routed instead to our Bereavement Blogroll.  If you are interested in sharing your website or blog, you can include or comment on your own story after it is published.

There is room for error in all editing and an occasional situation may slip past.

Comments contributed to this website, and to the stories, are edited for purpose; encouraging comments are always welcome, and those that suggest additional blame or accusation or in any other way present antagonism toward the grieving author of the story will not be published.

The site creator reserves the right to refrain from publishing any content.  Criminal activity will be reported.

Stillbirthday will never sell your private information to any third party.

Internet Challenges to Healthy Bereavement

Virtual grieving can have real challenges.  Virtually anywhere on the internet, third parties may attempt to infringe on your right to healing by taking any of your words or photos and using them against you in their own blog or article.  This is a very real issue for bereaved families who simply want to share their words from the safe place of their home.  From facebook comments to blog articles, people can capture your words and use them against you.  It is terrible that people do this, but as bereaved individuals seeking healing, it is important for us to know that this can happen.  Stillbirthday as a whole, and our password information, serves as an opportunity to slow people down, but please know that engaging in real, in-person counseling offers the secure confidentiality that even places like stillbirthday in it’s online format doesn’t offer.  It is virtually impossible to know and prevent literally any and every way a person might try to cause harm to you through the internet.  We do what we can, but sometimes, it is not enough.  It is why if you are not already on platforms such as facebook, we really don’t try to encourage you to start going there as a way to share your grief – simply because even the best moderation doesn’t always offer to you what you need to know, and it comes at the consequence of being exposed to so many unpreventable variables.  If you are seeking legal justice against your provider, for example, you may want to confirm with your legal counsel the best ways for you to express and explore the pain of your journey.  If it comes to the attention of the site creator that someone has blatantly turned your experience into something shaming against you, my first action is to move your URL to a new location on the site, so that their link won’t work.  I will then notify you if possible, to inform you that someone has taken your material, and if you’d like, I can then attempt to contact the offender on your behalf to ask them to discontinue.  For situations where it is believed that someone is lying about their loss, you might refer to our FAQ page.  If you feel like you just want to share something from your heart but not actually have it published, and even want the ability to do so anonymously, you might find great value in our Whisper Nest.  And as always, stillbirthday considers you the rightful, legal author of what you share here, and you may pursue legal action against anyone who might draw from your words or photos who have the intention of causing you emotional harm.


Our giveaway opportunities are available for any reader who may apply to its content.  Please use valid contact information.  The winner is announced at the bottom of the article at the close of the giveaway opportunity, and an email attampt to contact the winner is sent.  After 20 days from the announcement date, if the winner does not respond, a new winner is selected.  Please look in your spam box.  You will need to provide a real mailing address.  Items are delivered as-is; if they are reviewed by the site creator the condition should be expected to be used, although every care is taken to maintain as new quality of the item.  Items are shipped in media mail when applicable, with no delivery insurance; neither the product owner/designer nor the site creator are responsible for lost or damaged items.  Stillbirthday will never sell your private information to any third party.

Password Protection Information

Our story, is often the first account and the first expression of our grief.  Every bereaved person has the right to express their bereavement from their own interpretation.  We have the right to a safe place to unpack and explore our deep feelings authentically and we have the right to allow our feelings to shift or change as we travel through our healing journey.  Reading stories can be a wonderful way for one bereaved person to bring great healing and validation to another.  The ONLY reason to read a story that is password protected at stillbirthday is to be loved and give love.  While stillbirthday cannot provide legal protection for bereaved authors, anyone who uses any story published here, outside of these standards may be subject to the author possibly pursuing legal action under the anti-circumvention law, misusing the electronic password barrier.  This might include republishing a story in part or in entirety with re-interpretation, publishing the password without this notice, or in any way using a bereaved authors own healing journey in a way intended to cause emotional harm to that author or any other bereaved person who potentially may interpret their own experiences in a similar way.  To read a story published here at stillbirthday, you must enter in our password (unless the author of the story decided not to use the password).  Anything else ever contributed by an author may also be password protected if they desire.

You are invited to read more about my personal opinion regarding the rights of the bereaved and why stillbirthday is different from other websites by reading my article entitled Take Your Shoes Off.

By entering in our password to access what someone has contributed here, you are agreeing to these terms and agreeing to abide by these expectations.  It should be considered that by proceeding with using the password you are in agreement of the above.  Finally, the password is read these stories is stillbirthday



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