Less Trick, More Truth

Little girls will be dressed as sparkly angels, and little boys will be draped in white sheets to look like ghosts.

The mom with them, running house to house, standing behind her children as they present their buckets repeating “Trick or Treat!” might be wishing she had one more dressed up little one to chase after and take pictures of.

Maybe to her, there is one less bucket than there should be.

One less painted face.

One less Trick or Treater.

Maybe, more than one is missing from her giggling, glowing, candy collecting crew.

Halloween is the last day of October, and October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month.

For Halloween this year, one mother decided to distribute her candies, while including a tiny little paper that invites the mom to visit stillbirthday, by using the window inserts from our SBD Local Rep section. These are just the right size to attach to a sucker or just add in the handful of treats.

As she sorts through their candies at home, she’ll find your little message for her.

Letting the mom know that she isn’t alone – it could be the best treat she receives this Halloween.

This was just one idea that one mom found valuable as she tried to find the balance between honoring herself and other mothers, while still celebrating the fun in Halloween. It might not feel right for you, and that’s totally OK. Our SBD Local Rep page, where our printable resources are located, offers that often, sharing our stories, while painful, can be better received than printed items.

How do you find the balance between celebrating festivities or having fun, with wanting to tell others about support they could receive if they need it?

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BIRTH & BEREAVEMENT QUOTES

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She was a genius of sadness, immersing herself in it, separating its numerous strands, appreciating its subtle nuances. She was a prism through which sadness could be divided into its infinite spectrum.

— Jonathan Safran Foer, Everything Is Illuminated

No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.

— C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

I am strong.

— January, founder of Birth Without Fear

When someone you love dies, and you’re not expecting it, you don’t lose her all at once; you lose her in pieces over a long time—the way the mail stops coming, and her scent fades from the pillows and even from the clothes in her closet and drawers. Gradually, you accumulate the parts of her that are gone. Just when the day comes—when there’s a particular missing part that overwhelms you with the feeling that she’s gone, forever—there comes another day, and another specifically missing part.

— John Irving, A Prayer for Owen Meany

They say time heals all wounds, but that presumes the source of the grief is finite.

— Cassandra Clare, Clockwork Prince

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