Rearing isn’t Easy

Maybe you are a parent who has endured loss.  Maybe that loss is the death of a baby, or it’s a struggle to conceive.

In darkness, you might have thought:

“I’d be a much better parent than her…”

And somehow, this quiet boastfulness only festered your grief.

Jealousy immediately followed.

Maybe even, a bit of entitlement.  Anger. 

Somehow and somewhere in your journey, though, you are now a parent to a living child.

And, it’s not as easy as you thought.

You might be sleep deprived.

You might be fearful that your child isn’t bonding very well with you.

You might be dreading that your baby isn’t behaving like you thought, or that you aren’t responding with the endless amounts of affection, attention and adoration you imagined having.

Maybe you’ve lost your patience.

Maybe guilt followed.

Maybe shame began to sink in, and sink your spirits.

Parenting – whether through mourning, or through rearing, flat is not easy.

And, you are not alone.

You are invited to share your rearing challenges and joys in our Holding Umbrellas collection.  Just use our sharing tab to write your story.

 

 

 

Related: the SBD growing collection of “subsequent” pregnancy, birth and rearing resources and our Still Parenting journal project.

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BIRTH & BEREAVEMENT QUOTES
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A pregnancy loss is still a birthday.

— stillbirthday

At the moment of childbirth, every woman has the same aura of isolation, as though she were abandoned, alone.

— Boris Pasternak

Childbirth changed my perception of my wife. She was now the bloodied special forces soldier who had fought and risked everything for our family.

— Mohsin Hamid

We should work to guarantee that there is a midwife or health worker by every woman’s side during childbirth.

— Liya Kebede

It is incumbent upon us to respond to the unique needs of military women and ensure they receive proper care during the first year following childbirth.

— Susan Collins
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